This page contains tools you might use to in your journey to self-awareness and growth - or maybe just to learn to handle stress better and become healthier and MORE ENERGETIC
the mother breath
The Mother Breath* is excellent for stress relief and clearing your mind. It mimics the sounds of the sea: you breathe in silently with your mouth in the shape of Ah, like the sound of the wave’s backwash; then you whisper Mmm through your nose as if the wave begins to swell, and Shh as the wave breaks on the shore. So: ah… mmm… shhh… for at least 10 times at a time every day, breathing very deeply – right down to your anus!
Expressing appreciation of each other, when sincere and given without ‘an agenda’, builds positive energy in the giver and the receiver.
One way to do this is by giving ‘Russian Toasts’ at get-togethers or special events like the company’s end of the year party or the family’s New Year’s celebration. How to do it is that people spontaneously get up to toast a member of the company or family or group of friends and express what they most appreciate about that person.
Another way that works well in work teams is to form a circle. The facilitator gives one person the end of a ball of string which that person holds. The person chooses someone else in the circle and says what he/she really appreciates about that person while the facilitator connects them with the piece of string. That person in turn chooses someone else to ‘appreciate’ and is connected with the next bit of the piece of string, until finally everyone has had a turn and the string criss-crosses multiple times within the circle. This gives a very clear image of how the members of a team are all connected and what it means to be a team.
A variation of the same technique can be used where one person is celebrated – a birthday, a kitchen tea or whatever. Again everyone forms a circle with the ‘special person’ holding the end of the piece of string. As people are ready to say what they appreciate about the special person they are handed the next bit of the piece of string until everyone has had a turn and the string forms a ‘net’ of connections between them.
Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Exhale and relax. With each breath that you take, allow yourself to relax deeper and deeper.
Now relax each part of your body starting from the top of your head all the way down to your feet. Put your attention on each part of your body progressively and try to tighten up or clench that specific muscle as much as you can, and then you let go and release it. As you let go, you allow that portion of your body to relax completely.
Begin with the top of you head… tighten up all the muscles around your forehead, your eyes, your cheeks and your nose for a few moments ... and let go completely and relax. Now tighten up all the muscles around your mouth, your chin and your jaw ... and just let them go and let them relax. Next you tighten up all the muscles in your neck area for a moment, the front and the back... and let go ... Tighten up the muscles at the base of your neck with your shoulder muscles and relax them… Then your upper arms and after that your lower arms – tense and relax as much as you can ...then clench your fists and relax them. Feel your arms become heavy and relaxed… down to your fingertips.
Now tighten up all the muscles in your chest area and relax them... and then your back… clench and relax. Next tighten up all the muscles in your stomach ... hold it for a few seconds ... and as you let go you allow all of the stress and tension to leave your body completely ... now tighten up the areas around your hips, your bottom… and relax them. Now clench and relax the muscles of your upper legs and then your lower legs… your feet and toes ... clench them as tight as you can ... and as you let go, allow everything in your body to relax completely ... from the top of your head, to the bottom of your feet.
Take another few very deep breaths and then open your eyes.
dream interpretation principles
-Some dreams are not really important; they simply serve to ‘clear out’ stuff that happened the previous day. If the content of the dream is strongly associated with events of the previous day, you can usually discard the dream.
-Very important dreams are called ‘big dreams’. They are often vividly remembered the following day, or they wake you up at night and/or they have a sense of urgency or significance.-If you write down your dreams, your subconscious will send you more dreams with important information.
-Dreams that recur are almost always important and should be heeded. Your subconscious is trying to get a message through to you and you are not ‘getting it’. For instance, if you have recurrent dreams of losing your cell phone or not succeeding in dialling the right number, you probably have frustrations regarding communication, feeling you are not able to communicate or to ‘get through’ to someone specific or people in general. Or you are feeling ‘disconnected’ or out of touch with yourself. Your subconscious might also be telling you that you are not receptive to new information.
-When you write down your dreams, you must write down EVERYTHING. Every little detail is important. Also write down how you FELT in the dream; this can make a big difference to the interpretation.
-Remember that your subconscious speaks to you in symbolic language and pictures, so don’t take things literally at first. Always assume that people or events or things might be symbolic. For instance, if you dream of your parents it might be literal. On the other hand, your father could represent authority and your mother relationships or nurturing. Grandparents might represent wisdom and family traditions and relatives your family’s value system.
-When you interpret your dream, first look for obvious meanings, e.g. dreaming about a key=it bothers you that you recently lost a key OR your unconscious tells you a lock in your house is not functioning properly OR you hope a new door will open to you… If none of these fit, the key might represent the answer to something. If you hold the keys in the dream, you yourself have the answers.
-Identify the predominant emotion in the dream; this might give you a clue as to whether the dream was a positive or negative one [as in the case of the different key scenarios above].
-If you have had a series of dreams that night, see whether they don’t repeat the same [important] message.
-Talk through your dream or read it aloud to check for a play on words [paying tax=feeling ‘taxed’ or burdened; something on your back=you can’t shake something off; Queen=someone in your life called Elizabeth, Mary, Cleopatra, Antoinette; scaly dragon=scaly person or weight.]
-Other people in your dream usually represent aspects of you or specific types of people, so think what that person represents to you, e.g. optimism or dishonesty or whatever. Or you associate the other person with a specific event in your life that has bearing on your current situation. It might even be a reference to a particular time in your life, so your subconscious draws a line from that time to the present and it has little to do with the person who is in your dream; you associate the person with that period in your life.
-You must always ask what a particular animal, person or place in the dream means to you. For instance, if you hate and fear dogs because a dog had bitten you when you were small, a dream about a dog will have a very different meaning for you than for the person who loves dogs. That is why dream dictionaries are not much help.
appreciation when difficult
Think of something you admire in the person you dislike, despise, resent or fear. Think hard and you will find something, even if it is only the person’s ears. When you interact with that person again, look into his or her eyes and say in your mind what that is, e.g. ‘You have beautiful ears.’ Keep repeating this every time you see the other person. Over time your positive approach will change the energy between the two of you and you might be surprised at the positive, maybe almost miraculous, results!
[Source: Jacobus Swart]
making affirmations work better
We can each choose what ATTITUDE we want to bring to each day of our life, for instance: ‘Today I show kindness’. That way, we don’t reACT in the habitual and predictable, often negative way. We reSPOND: we choose our response to any situation or event. Victor Frankl said the last of the human freedoms is our ability to choose our attitude under any given set of circumstances.
To make your affirmation work better, you can make it your ATTITUDE for the day:
-every evening, decide on your affirmation for the next day
-write it out about 10 times
-repeat it with FEELING a few times while looking in the mirror
-the next morning, again repeat it with FEELING while looking in the mirror
-throughout the day, keep repeating the affirmation.
For more information and some suggestions for affirmations, click on the image from space.
‘Combat breathing’ or ‘Tactical breathing’ is taught to law enforcement officers who are regularly exposed to high-stress situations. It helps prevent the distortions of perception and thought common to such situations. This enables policemen to keep thinking and seeing more clearly and thus being able to make better decisions.
If we regularly practise this form of breathing, we can easily and automatically go into it when we need to calm down or are involved in high-stress situations like natural disasters or criminal attacks.
Be alert rather than fearful in situations similar to those where you experienced trauma before. Fear is a great energy thief.
dreaming about your car: what does it mean?
A car or other transport usually represents our way of going forward with our lives. If we dream that we are looking for our car and can’t find it, e.g. we wander around the parking garage without locating our car, it means that we don’t know how to go forward or are frustrated at not being able to go forward. If our car is stolen, it might mean that we feel that someone or something is preventing us from going forward. If we drive our own car, we are in charge of our lives. If, on the other hand, we dream that we are passengers in our own car that is being driven by someone else, it means that we feel that someone else is controlling our lives.An accident, very often a car accident, usually indicates change. The more bloody the accident, the more painful the change will be. This dream might also indicate perceived threats to or anxieties about loved ones.
Dream:losing your wallet or purse
A friend of mine dreamed this week that her purse had been stolen. What does that mean?
A wallet or purse contains money and your cards. Money is a form of energy and thus usually represents your energy. If your purse is stolen, it means that in your perception someone is ‘stealing’ your energy in some way, e.g. by using you to do (too many) things for them, or by making you angry and thus making you lose energy.
If your wallet is lost, it indicates that you are leaking energy somehow. I had a dream once where I was very perturbed because I had lost my purse. A figure in my dream [I often have these ‘guide’ figures or disembodied voices in my dreams] explained that losing the cash was OK – that’s a once-off loss. However, losing the credit cards was serious, as that meant that someone or some people could go on drawing energy against my account.
I had to seriously look at my life – with whom was I so angry that I kept losing energy by thinking of them?
If you dream about your wallet or purse being lost, ask yourself the same question.